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ukd,shla ùug n,d‍fmdfrd;a;=jk hqj;shla rEm,djkH Ys,amskshl yuqùug hd hq;= jkafka udi lShlg fmroehs Tn okakjdo@
—udi yhlg fmr˜

fï ms<s;=r fkdokak flfkla ke;s ;rï' újdyhlg iQodkïjk fofokl= rEm,djkH Ys,amsksh yereKq fldg fuf,iska l,afõ,d we;sj uqK.eish hq;= mqoa.,hka f.a ,ehsia;=jla yokak hehs Tng mejiqjfyd;a Bg we;=<;ajk mqoa.,hka ljqreka o@ PdhdrEm Ys,amSka" u,a ieliqï lrejka" ‍fcHd;sIfõ§ka" ux., W;aij ixúOdhljreka" r;%x wdNrK ks¾udKlrejka" ix.S; lKavdhul idudðlhka fulS fkdlS fndfyda mqoa.,hka iys; ,ehsia;=jg Tn isyskfhka fyda we;=<;a lsÍug n,d‍fmdfrd;a;=jk fkdjk" tfy;a we;=<;a l<u hq;= mqoa.,hl= jk nj Tn okakjdo@
—mjq,a WmfoaYljrhd˜

Tng fï iqúfYaIS mqoa.,hd uÕyeÍ .shfyd;a" Tfí mjq‍f,a m%Yak .eg¨‍ fndfyda m%udKhla we;sùfï jeä bvlvla mj;skjduhs' kj hqj;sm;s hqj<la újdyhg fmr" mjq,a WmfoaYljrhl= fj; hdhq;= jkafka wehs@ wms wo m%;srEm ;lai,dfõ § r;akd mqIaml=udß uy;añh uqK.eiS l;dny lrkq ,nkafka fï ms<sn|jhs'

r;akd" újdyhg fmr kj hqj<la mjq,a WmfoaYk fiajdjla fj; hdu w;HdjYH o@
fï f,dalfha bmÿKq fyda bm§ug kshñ; lsisÿ mqoa.,hl= ;j;a whl=g udkislj iudk uÜgulska bmfokafka kE' ta ksidu fldhs;rï wdorŒh hqj<la w;r jqj;a fkdfhla wjia:djkaj, § iq¿ iq¿ fkd.e<mSï fyda we;súh yelshs' ta ksidu wdor in|;djhla u; újdy jQj;a" úfYaIfhkau fhdað; újdyhlska hq.Èú .uka we/Uqj;a mjq,a WmfoaYk fiajdjla fj; fhduqúh hq;=uhs' tfia fkdjqKfyd;a miq.sh Èfkl ud yuqùug meñ‚ i|ud,Sg jeks wjdikdjka; ;;a;ajhkag uqyqK§ug fndfyda fokl=g isÿùu je<elaúh fkdyelshs'

l=ulao weh uqyqK ÿka ;;a;ajh@
i|ud,S jhi wjqreÿ úis wgl rEu;a ìß|la' wehf.a ieñhd;a b;du mshlrehs' fm!oa.,sl uQ,H iud.ul /lshdjla l< fudjqka fofokd yuqjkafka tu wdh;kfha fiajh lrk w;r;=rhs' fmïj;=ka jQ fudjqka b;du mS%;su;a fma%u jika;hla ksudlr újdy ùfuka miqj i|ud,S /lshdjg iuq§ mQ¾Kld,Sk .Dy‚hla fjkjd' ál l,la b;du;a mS%;su;a hq. Èúhla .;lrk fudjqka w;r ál ál w~onr j¾Okh fjkjd'

wehs ta@
i|ud,S ieñhdj iel lrkjd' tfiau ieñhdg wefik fia úúO wkdjels m,lrñka wekqïmo lSu;a wef.a isß;la' —wo kï tkak ? fjhs jf.a' uQK ne¨‍ju lshkak mq¿jka'˜ wo Wfoa b|,d uqK yß fjkia' fjkog jvd wuq;=hs jf.a' —ug fydrdg fudllau yß je/oaola lr,d jf.a' — fujeks wekqï mohla wef.a uqfõ ke;s fjk fj,djla fidhd .ekSug fkdyels jQ ksidu" ieñhd;a weh;a w;f¾ wdrjq,a Èfkka Èk jeä ù f.dia ;sfnkjd' uq,ska uq,ska fuh ieñhdf.a jrola f,i ujqmshka iy kEoEhka is;=j;a fuhg je/Èldßh i|ud,s Tjqka miqj ;SrKh lrkq ,nk ksid" wi,ajdiSka mjd wehg wysñ fjkjd'

tfia ùug fya;=j l=ulao@
uq,È ieñhdg muKla fpdaokd lrñka isá weh miqj ujqmshkag iy kEoEhkag fpdaokd lsÍug mgka .ekSuhs fuhg fya;=j jkafka' kEoE jk ldka;djla weh iuÕ we;s ys;j;alu ksid wehf.a ÿl iem ne,Sug l;d l< úfgl" —wehs yeuodu fuydg flda,a lrkafka' ys;df.k bkafka uu lsisu fohla fkdokak ‍fmdä nfnla lsh,d o@ ug ljqre;a ´fka kE'˜ hkqfjka weh neKje§ ;snqKd' tfiau mdf¾ .uka lrk mqoa.,hl= fyda je/§fuka Tjqkaf.a ksfji foi ne¨‍jfyd;a" —fudlo wfma f.a me;a; n,df.k hkafka fufya ueðla kE'˜ hkqfjka Tjqkag neKje§ug;a i|ud,S mqreÿ ù isáhd' wehf.a fï fjki ;rula widudkH nj jegyqKq ksidu wehf.a uj úiska weh ud fj; fhduqlsÍug W;aidy f.k ;snqKd' weh ud fj; meñŒug wleue;s jQ ksidu ud wehf.a ujf.a ñ;=ßhla fuka Tjqkaf.a ksfji fj; f.dia weh yd l=¿m. ù Wml%uYS,Sj weh ufkda WmfoaYk ,nd§u wdrïN l<d' tys§ wehg fufia ùug fya;= jQ ldrKdj ug fidhd .ekSug yelsjqKd'

l=ulao r;akd wehf.a fï yeisÍï rgdjg fya;=j@
ndysr iudcfhka ,enqKq Kd;aul is;sú,s' wo fndfydauhla mjq,a Ôú; wjq,a iy.; ;;a;ajhg m;aj we;af;a fufia Kd;aul is;=ú,s u; mokïj uki ;=< fkdfhla ufkda úldr we;slr .ekSu yryd f.dvkÕd.kakd ielh yryd ;ukaf.a ieñhdg fyda ìß|g wN+;fhka fpdaokd lsÍu fya;=fjkqhs' i|ud,sg;a fufia iel ixld Wm§ug fya;=j;a wehf.a ukig fï ndysr iudcfhka ,enqKq Kd;aul is;=ú,suhs'

l=ulao wehf.a ukig Kd;aul is;=ú,s we;sùug m%n,ju n,mE isÿùu@
wehg orejka fkdue;slu' ieneúkau wehg orejka fkdisáhd fkdfõ' Tjqka Ôj;a jQ ksfjfia bÈlsÍï lghq;= ;ju;a mQ¾K uÜgfï fkd;snqKq neúka ieñhd orejl= ms<sn|j is;Su miqjg l,a ouuq hehs wehg fhdackd lr ;snqKd' újdyhg fmr" ld¾hh nyq, /lshdjl fhÿKq i|ud,Sg újdyfhka miqj ksfjfia ;snq yqfol,d nj ord.ekSug ;rï Yla;su;a udkisl;ajhla fkd;sìu oeäj n,md ;snqKd' tfiau Èfkka Èk ì|jefgk fï udkisl;ajhg wef.a wi,ajeis ldka;djf.a jpk ud,dj;a fya;= ù ;snqKd'

i|ud,Sg orejka fkdue;súu ms<sn|j weh wekqïmo lshd ;snqKd o@
kE' weh hï hï foa mjid ;snqfKa i|ud,sf.a ieñhd w<,dhs' —Thdf.a uy;a;hd lvjiï flfkla ksid álla mfriaiï lrkak fjhs' wo ld‍f,a keÜáÉÑfhda lShgj;a úYaji lrkak nEfka'˜ —uy;a;hd oekau nnd,d yokak nE lshkafka wehs lsh,d álla fydh,d n,kak' fudllayß mg,jd f.ko okafka keyefka'˜ —f.j,a ´kEu o wfka <uhs yokak' oeka n,kak wms' wmsg nnd,d fokafkla bkakjd' ;du bkafka l=,S f.al'˜ fun÷ l;d mjiñka wi,ajeis ldka;dj jßkajr i|ud,Sf.a is;g Kd;aul woyia tlafldg ;snQ ksidu" wehf.a is; ;=< fï iel ixld f.dvkeÕS ;snqKd'

wehs tfyu fjkafka@
fuh wm ish¨‍ fokdu fyd¢ka wjfndaO lr.; hq;= ldrKdjla' ksrka;rfhkau wfma YÍrh wfkl=;a wjhjhka iïnkaOj ksrdhdifhkau l%shdldrlï lr.kakd wdldrhgu wmf.a ukig wm úiskau ,ndfok Okd;aul fyda Kd;aul ikaksfõok Tiafia is;sú,s ielfiñka m%;spdr oelaùu iajNdjhhs' tneúka ksrka;rfhkau mS%;sh nqla;s ú£ug leue;s Tn" mßirfha we;s Okd;aul fohu Tnf.a ukig we;=<;a lr .ekSug W;aidy .; hq;=hs' ud tf,i Okd;aul foa muKla ,nd.kakd f,i i|ud,sf.a ys; mqreÿ l<d' wehf.a is; Okd;aul núka msreKq miq ieñhd iuÕ újD;j;a iqyoj;a idlÉPd lr orejka ms<sn|j .eg¨‍j úi|d .ekSug wjia:djla Wodlr.kak hehs ud wehg Wmfoia ,ndÿkakd' fï jkúg wehf.a iel ixld msreKq udkisl;ajh iïmQ¾Kfhkau myj f.dia yudrhs' fï jkúg weh ujla ùfï ,l=Kq my<j we;s nj miq.sh Èfkl ÿrl;kfhka l;d lr weh ud yd mejiqfõ b;du;au i;=áka'

r;akd uy;añh yuqù fyda ÿrl;k ud¾.fhka b;du;a iykodhS ñ,lg Wmfoia ,nd .ksñka Tfí Ôú;h;a id¾:l lr.ekSfï uyÕ=‍ jru mdGl Tng ,eì ;sfí' ta i|yd Tn l< hq;= jkafka 071 4113457 fyda 0777 645921 hk ÿrl;khkag wu;d" wehf.ka Wmfoia ,nd.ekSug Èkhla iy fõ,djla fjkalrjd .ekSu muKhs' tfiau Tfí PdhdrEmhla wehg ,nd§u ;=<ska Tnf.a wkd.; Ôú;h id¾:l lr.ekSu i|yd Tn flfia uki ilia lr.; hq;=o hkak ms<sn|j;a wehf.ka úuid oek.ekSfï yelshdj Tng mj;sk nj u;la lrkq ,nkafka i;=áks'

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